He loves me, he loves me not, he loves me he loves me not . . .
How many times have you checked with a Magic 8 Ball? Flipped a coin? Or plucked petals from a flower to decide if you should do something or not (or if he loves you ro not)?
While we are not supposed to practice divination, even our rabbis took things as good or bad signs.
Here we see what they did and the difference. The Gemara asks: But doesn’t Rav say that any divination that is not like the divination of Eliezer, the servant of Abraham, when he went to seek a bride for Isaac (see Genesis 24:14), or like the divination of Jonathan, son of Saul, who sought an omen as to whether he and his arms bearer would defeat the Philistines (see I Samuel 14:8–12), is not divination?
That’s what we shouldn’t do, now here is their own personal “signs” they used to make decisions.
Rav would check whether to travel based upon the ferry; if it came quickly he would take the ferry, but otherwise he would not. And Shmuel would check what would happen to him by opening a scroll and reading from wherever it was open to. Rabbi Yoḥanan would check what was in store for him by asking a child to recite the verse he was learning.
. . .It is taught in a baraita: Rabbi Shimon ben Elazar says: With regard to one who is successful with his first business transaction after he has built a home, after the birth of a child, or after he marries a woman, even though he may not use this as a means of divination to decide upon future courses of action, it is an auspicious sign that he will continue to be successful. Conversely, if his first transaction is not successful he may take that as an inauspicious sign.
The lesson? Even they knew, intellectually, that these “signs” did not mean anything, but we really just can’t stop ourselves can we? My gem is even the rabbis, in all their wisdom and faith, wish they could know the future and had firm guidance on even small decisions.