“Never say never.” “The exception that proves the rule.” Today’s gem teaches us how to say this in Aramaic: אֵין לְמֵידִין מִן הַכְּלָלוֹת
We learn “rules of thumb” but even these seem to have exceptions. As we read:
GEMARA: Rabbi Yoḥanan said: One may not learn from general statements, i.e., when a general statement is made in a mishna using the word all, it is not to be understood as an all-inclusive, general statement without exceptions. This is true even in a place where it says the word except. Even in that case, there may be other exceptions to the rule that are not listed.
So, what is an example of this? Glad you asked, now we get some interesting text for us to unpack:
The Gemara answers: With regard to all time-bound, positive commandments, i.e., mitzvot that can only be performed at a certain time of the day, or during the day rather than at night, or on certain days of the year, men are obligated to perform them and women are exempt. But positive commandments that are not time-bound, both women and men are obligated to perform.
That’s right readers. Because the men of the Mishna (and Talmud, and 1950s) relied on women to take care of the home, the kids (and they often worked as well) they recognized that it would be hard to ask someone so busy to drop everything to pray 3 times a day and some of these other mitzvot we have been reading about. But is this a rule with no exception? We read on:
Is it a general principle that women are exempt from all time-bound, positive commandments without exception? But there is the commandment to eat matza on Passover, the commandment of rejoicing on a Festival, and the commandment of assembly in the Temple courtyard once every seven years during the festival of Sukkot following the Sabbatical Year, all of which are time-bound, positive commandments, and nevertheless, women are obligated to perform them.
Ah! so women are obligated in some of the mitzvot. (By the way, it does not say women are prevented from fulfilling any of the mitzvot, just that they are not obligated. In this way halakhic movements such as conservative and now some modern orthodox have allowed women to be ordained as long as they choose to fulfill the mitzvot. Reform is a whole different story. . . .)
Similarly, are women obligated in all positive commandments that are not time-bound? But there is the commandment of Torah study, the commandment to be fruitful and multiply, and the commandment of redemption of the firstborn, all of which are positive commandments that are not time-bound, and nevertheless, women are exempt from them.
So, I love this as a feminist and want to sit here all day debating and unpacking this (some I already have – like my post on why women are not obligated to have children). But I chose it not because of the fascination I have with the text – but with the rule that this text illustrates:
Rather, Rabbi Yoḥanan said: One may not learn from general statements, even in a place where it says except, because it is always possible that there other exceptions to the rule.
Humans love to make sweeping generalizations – but, in general, they’re not true (see what I did there?). Generalizations can help us to digest information, or know what is expected of us (as in the case on today’s daf of women and mitzvot) but they should not be held sacrosanct.
I think generalizations cause a lot of harm. They take away the fact that each of us ins unique. Brene Brown wrote, “It’s hard to hate people up close.” It’s easy to hate a mob of blurry faces that I have all lumped together as a “them” and heaped my judgements upon. But we are all snowflakes, unique and with some beauty. . .
This is my gem because I think it challenges us to not make generalizations. To look both to the larger picture, and to the individualized picture as well.