Today’s gem is the power that embarrassment has towards pushing us to be careful in our actions and do the right thing. In the Mishnah yesterday we read: Only the miserly, who want to save the expenditure of wood, burn it before the Temple in order to benefit from the wood of the arrangement. The Gemara asks: What is the reason that the Paschal lamb must be burned before the Temple and that those who prefer to burn it elsewhere are not permitted to do so? Rabbi Yosei bar Ḥanina said: In order to embarrass them. Presumably, the reason that most of the offering became impure is because the owners were not sufficiently careful with it. Therefore, the Sages decreed that it be burned in a public place.
On today’s daf (82), we get instructions to embarrass priests who were not careful with their own ritual purity: We learned in a mishna there, in tractate Tamid: The head of the watch would stand the ritually impure priests at the entrance to the eastern gate each morning. The Gemara asks: What is the reason that they did not simply send them home without making them stand at the entrance to the eastern gate? Rav Yosef said: It was in order to embarrass them for not having been careful to avoid becoming impure.
I think back to dunce caps and scarlet letters . . . while I think shame is dangerous and mostly unhealthy, I do think that we are sometimes better at limiting our behaviors because of worry about how others will think of us more so than limiting our behaviors for ourselves sometimes. Sometimes, worrying about what other people think and feel can push us to be better and do better.
It reminds me of Berachot 28b, Rabbi Yoḥanan ben Zakkai fell ill his students entered to visit him. . . His students said to him: Our teacher, bless us. He said to them: May it be His will that the fear of Heaven shall be upon you like the fear of flesh and blood. His students were puzzled and said: To that point and not beyond? Shouldn’t one fear God more then a flesh and blood king? He said to them: Would that a person achieve that level of fear. Know that when one commits a transgression, he says to himself: I hope that no man will see me. If one is as concerned about avoiding shame before God as he is before man, he will never sin.
On yesterday, and today’s daf, we see more examples of using fear of what others will think to help individuals to be more careful in their behavior.
We are showing our house right now, and are hopefully selling it soon. Our house is so much neater than it usually is. We all like it neat, but when you think other people will be coming over and judging it- well, it suddenly looks better than it ever has.
Would that we would fear God the way we fear the judgement of others.
