When is it appropriate for a child to cut their own steak? Walk to school on their own? Run to the store to pick up an item for the family? Apparently, these questions are nothing new.
MISHNA: With regard to one who sends his son to a storekeeper with a pundeyon, a coin worth two issar, in his hand, and the storekeeper measured oil for him for one issar and gave him the second issar as change, and the son broke the jug and lost the issar, the storekeeper must compensate the father, as he gave the jug and coin to one who is not halakhically competent. Rabbi Yehuda exempts him from liability, as he holds that the father sent his son in order to do this, i.e., to bring back the jug and coin. And the Rabbis concede to Rabbi Yehuda with regard to a case when the jug is in the hand of the child and the storekeeper measured the oil into it that the storekeeper is exempt if the child breaks the jug.
Here we have a child sent to the store by the parent. It looks as though the child was to buy a jug of oil and bring the oil and the change back home. But, the kids drops the jug, breaking it and losing the oil AND loses the change.
The stama says the storekeeper should compensate the father, why? Well, maybe the child was too young for this task and the storekeeper should have known better then to give this kid something so fragile. But Rabbi Yehudah disagrees arguing that the parents knew the danger of sending the kid – but they want the kids to learn! That’s not the storekeepers fault.
Amazing how the daf still speaks to current debates. Should adults intervene when they see a child walking to the store and they (the adult noticing) think the child is too young? Or, is it none of their business? Does the parent want the child to gain independence (even if they can’t find the item or damage or lose the item)?
The rabbis err on the side of teaching the child independence. It’s called “adulting” and it’s good practice for our kids.

